In every loss, in every lie... In every truth that you deny... And each regret, and each goodbye... Was a mistake too great to hide... And your voice was all I heard... Did I get what I deserve? Blaming yourself is inevitable, but sometimes the option left, is, to let go. The more you try to hold on to it, the more it withers and slips away from you. When life throws us in a happenstance like this, confusion and anger lurk around like the best companions. However, if the situation is viewed in a mature way, there can always be a way out of it. Lack of Control In a situation like this, accept that you don't have any control. No matter how hard you try reverse the situation, its only going to get out of control. Hence, to learn how to let go someone you love, is to accept that you have no control over the situation. So, the sooner you accept your lack of control, the easier it is going to be for you to move on. Your Role is Over It's always difficult to move away from the one you love, as it never seems rational. However, you need to understand that your role in the person's life is now over. You have done all that you could have and probably tried everything in your capacity to make things workout. Talk it Out Bottling your feelings can make you depressed and complicate things for you even more. Whining about it, withdrawing yourself from socializing and completely isolating yourself is going to worsen things for you and also for those around you. Thus, get out of your shell and talk about your despairs and grievances, to your friends. Confide your feelings in someone you really trust. It may be a friend or a family member. Letting out your feelings will also help in making new bonds. Time Out Time is the best healer of every wound. Give yourself sometime to get over the loss or the breakup. Pushing yourself by hiding your emotions, is not the way to let go of someone you love. With each passing moment you will come out stronger from this situation. You may want to curse and abuse yourself, but it's not just your fault. It always takes two to tango. It's a Part and Parcel You've been hurt and left heartbroken. Life's been unfair to you and you can't take it anymore. Seeming like a familiar feeling? A similar feeling when you didn't win the prize in 5th grade for the best project? The only difference now is that the person you love has replaced the science project. If, not winning made you tougher and made you do better, then this situation is also going to reward you in the similar way. These cycles of ups and downs are all a part and parcel of growing up and evolving each day, to be a better person than you were the night before. 'To err is human, to forgive is human as well'... The person you were in love with, has helped you in a lot of direct and indirect ways. Your partner has so far held your hand and been your support. Take this opportunity, to be able to handle challenging situations on your own. Take this chance to see yourself in a new light, leading an inspirational phase of your life. Change your perspective, forgive and forget the person, and be in control of your life. Love yourself more than you have ever loved yourself and everything else will fall into place. As the famous quote from the movie, Indecent Proposal goes...If you ever want something badly, let it go. If it comes back to you, then it is yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with. So just let go of the person you love, for it is in their happiness, where your happiness truly lies.