signs to identify a fake friendship
12 Signs to Identify a Fake Friendship
Friends are an extremely important part of our lives. They are the ones who are always there with us in our ups and downs, and add value to our lives. However, it sure can become hell if you end up having a phony pal. So, how do you know if the friendship is toxic? In this Buzzle post, we put forth a list of signs which will indicate that you are dealing with a fake friend.
"You got nothing to lose. You don't lose when you lose fake friends."
Friendship is indeed a beautiful thing, especially if you're blessed with true friends. They are the ones who always have your back. They always accept you for who you are, and don't judge or do anything that might hurt you. There's a mutual understanding and a sense of security that you both share. You can share the deepest of secrets and fears, and still not worry about being judged. Like any other relationship, this too is a two-way traffic equation, and is based on give and take.
But what happens when this give and take suddenly changes to take, take, and take, or give, give, and just give? Yes, this is one of the indications that your so-called friend might just be pretending to be your best friend. There are flaws and shortcomings in friendship too. All of us, at some point in our lives, have come across this friend who looks like this finest piece of gold on the outside, but in the end is just fake inside. It is hard to tell their authenticity, especially when they have had a huge impact on your life. So, in order to save you the trouble and heartbreak, here are some signs that you need to watch out for if you want to identify a bad friend.
― Joan Jett
Signs That Tell You Have a Fake Friend
#1. They are selfish
A fake friend will just not be bothered about you or your life, if it doesn't concern them. They tend to be one-dimensional, and think that their needs are more important than others. They only call you when they need a favor. They feel no inclination in just hanging out with you, and are only to be seen when they are in need, or if anything benefits them.#2. It's all take and take
#3. They make you feel bad about yourself
They are constantly trying to put you down and make you feel guilty, even for the things that you haven't done or said. Some people often reach the heights of making you guilty simply for not hanging out with them. You are constantly made to feel dumb if your opinion does not match theirs. They are great at boosting your ego by being all nice to you, but just to get things done when they are feeling too lazy or incompetent to do it themselves.#4. They consider themselves to be superior
Friendship is not about being inferior or superior than one another. This type of friend leaves no chance of making others feel inferior. They always like to keep a score of their and your achievements, and play their card whenever you achieve something in life. They pretend as if it's no big deal for them.#5. They are jealous of your achievements
#6. They always highlight your flaws to prove themselves right
Do you often feel that you're always targeted or becoming the laughing stock, especially when you are in group? This fake friend often turns the whole group against you by exaggerating things, just to avoid being teased or laughed at himself. He will never accept his faults, and will always hold you responsible for them. Many people go through this and brush it off quite often, which leads them to suffer later on. However, make sure that you don't put up with such a behavior, especially if you are being mocked at for no reason at all.#7. They are never there when you need them
#8. They are manipulative and inconsiderate
They are always complaining, and never see the brighter side of any situation. They are nice to you only when they need something, and very well know which buttons to push, including the 'emotional blackmail' one. They are bad news, and simply don't appreciate other people's efforts. They are never grateful to you when you sacrifice certain things in your life to accommodate them.#9. They'll gossip endlessly about everyone
#10. They are critical and constantly lie to you
They are always pointing out your flaws and criticizing each and everything, even if you are helping them out. They always criticize your choices and goals, and make fun of them instead of being a little supportive. Moreover, they constantly lie to you about everything, just to make themselves feel and look better.#11. They are not trustworthy
#12. They always choose a better deal
You often feel left out, almost like a third wheel, when this so-called friend of yours makes plans with you, but always cancels them at the last minute if anything more exciting comes up. For example, a date or a new person in their life. They never invite you to hang out either. Always remember, prioritize the people who prioritize you.