marriage advice for newlyweds

Marriage Advice for Newlyweds

The wedding day is a special day where near and dear ones come together to bless the newly married couple. However, it is also extremely important for the newlyweds to receive some advice for success of their marriage. This article concentrates on giving some important tips to both husband and wife that will help them in building and maintaining a strong relationship.

It is quite usual to receive marital advice from close friends and family members, who tell about their own experiences about life after marriage. Many give tips about what one should do and what one should totally avoid doing in a marriage. Though, you as a couple, may say that you will try to follow the tips and make your marriage nothing less than perfect, sans conflicts and fights, the reality is something very different. This is because before marriage, you both were individuals leading different lives while marriage brought you together. These differences may lead to clashes in your marriage. Hence, you need to know certain important things about marriage which will help you to understand each other better. Advice for a Newly Married Couple Period of Adjustment The marriage actually begins once the wedding celebrations are over and you have enjoyed your honeymoon. Once you settle down to your normal life, you begin to have differences with your partner. You may discover some habits of your spouse that might irritate you. But this is normal. When you are dating, it is likely that you will concentrate more on the positive areas of your partner and ignore the negative ones. However, as dating is different from marriage, it is not possible to ignore everything when you are together. Nevertheless, you must understand that marriage is about compromises and adjustments, and there are few things that will never change in your partner, whatsoever you do. Also, even you may have some habits which may seem normal to you, but weird to your partner. Understand that your spouse is a human being too, and do not have unreasonable expectations that your partner will change completely for you. Communicate Remember the long nights on the phone when you shared everything that happened in the day, including what you did, what happened at office, etc., with your boyfriend? However, after marriage it often happens that you do not even find the time to talk to each other. This can cause various problems in your relationship, sometimes even leading to frustration. Hence, make it a point to sit and talk to your spouse every evening, even though you are very tired. Break the Routine Many times, due to busy schedule and routine life, you start taking each other for granted which can affect your marriage terribly. To avoid such situations, it is necessary that you take a break occasionally from your routine life and go on small vacations or holidays together, so that you can unwind your stress and spend quality time with each other. Save Money When you are newly married, you are bound to face some financial problems due to your grand wedding and honeymoon. Money problems can create problems in the marriage as well. However, this can be avoided by planning well before the wedding itself. While planning the wedding, you should sit and discuss money matters with your spouse and should plan your wedding ceremony by keeping your future in mind. Give Space Although it is important to spend time with each other, it is equally necessary that you give each other space. Remember, that each of you had a life before you got married, and getting married does not mean that you have to forget that life completely. Each of you should take time from your marriage to meet up friends and family members, and also to do things that you enjoyed doing earlier. Make Time for Sex Love making is one of the most crucial factors for a happy marriage. Though initially you may not have an inkling about it, with tensions and work stress coming in, you often lose interest in sex. However, you do not realize that lack of sexual intimacy can affect your marriage life in a negative way. Hence, you have to make an effort to maintain your sexual relationship, as you had in the initial days of marriage. Keeping the romance alive is of utmost importance. Do Not Rush to Have Children Though this is a matter of personal choice, you should avoid having children for the first few years of marriage. This is because these initial years have to be committed to get to know and understand each other better and you should work to build a strong relationship so that you can give your children a future that is happy and secured. Christian Marital Advice Often, engaged as well as newly married couples receive marriage advice from the Church. These sessions are taken by the priest or a therapist who tries to explain the meaning and importance of marriage as said in the Bible. Here are some important biblical advice that you should be aware of. 1 Peter 3:7 - Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner, and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. Here, the Bible advises the husbands that they should treat their spouses with utmost respect as well as honor them because they are of the weaker sex. It is said that if husbands fail to do this, they will be refrained from receiving God's blessings, even if they say their prayers regularly. Matthew 19:5 - For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. This means that, after marriage, the husband has to give preference to the needs and wishes of his wife before thinking about his parents or other family members. In short, he has to put his wife before his parents and relatives. 1 Corinthians 7:3 - Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. Bible advises married couples that they have to be good and kind towards each other. They should hold each other with respect and avoid bringing in negative things like selfishness, anger, insult, etc., into their relationship. Humorous Marriage Advice After some serious advice, now is the need to be a little chilled out. So here is some funny advice that you will surely enjoy.
  • People often say that you should not go to bed angry, without resolving your fight. However, the funny advice is to go to bed angry, so that you get adequate rest to win the argument the very next day.
  • If you want your husband to help you in some household work, instead of telling him directly, do it in a wrong or haphazard manner, and most likely he will come to show you the correct way of doing it.
  • If you had thought of buying your wife a pair of diamond earrings, but could not, keep the thought to yourself. This is because of the fact that what you were thinking about her is not the only thing that really matters to her.
It takes two people to make a relationship work, both of you have to put in your best efforts to make your marriage a perfect one, as you dreamed it to be.

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