"Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism." - Carl Jung Addiction brings with it only detriment. What begins as a sniff, a puff, a drag, a swig, a morsel, a splurge, or a fling can spiral into something beyond the control of a person, and before he realizes it, he's addicted. The thing about addiction and relationships is that both sides can be equally tormented, confused, and helpless. Some may try to understand the addiction, some give up after a while, and some hang on till the end, willing their way through the ordeal of helping an addict get his life back. Whatever the situation, the bottom line is that deterioration of relationships is collateral to any kind of addiction. It affects every person: the spouse/partner, family, friends, colleagues, superiors, and even random people they meet everyday. The ways in which these effects manifest themselves can turn out to be disastrous because of the extremely sensitive nature of the problem. A lot of problems accompany an addiction. They grow slowly, but culminate into something that can uproot relationships and leave one stranded. In the case of a partner or spouse being an addict, the burden of managing the finances falls on the shoulders of the sober partner. An addict may not be able to hold a job for long, he may use his money on his addiction, he may get fired, or all of the above. Addictions don't come cheap, and the lengths an addict will go to, to keep himself and his addiction going strong, can be from simple and sneaky to downright devious. In such situations, it becomes the sober partner's duty to fend for both of them and the family, if any. The sober partner may have to take up extra work, plan out different strategies, lie and hide the addict's financial incompetence, all in an effort to try to make him get through it. The very fact that one suffers from an addiction is proof that he or she is not emotionally stable. While many may think that addiction is a matter of willpower, it may not always be possible for the person to realize that he indeed has a problem. Denial, combined with a narcotic can only spell trouble in the psychological aspect of one's life. The brain does not function how it is supposed to, and the addict is prone to mood swings, erratic behavior, withdrawal, relapses, anger, frustration, and all such negative emotions, which can take a toll on any relationship that he is in. An addict's behavior, as stated above, can be extremely unpredictable. He might be ecstatic one day and extremely aggravated the next. This temperamental behavior can make it very difficult for people to be around him. Friends and colleagues may just begin to avoid him because of it, but it's the family that has to bear the brunt of the (sometimes possibly) violent outbursts of an addict. Children growing up in such homes can be severely affected, as addiction can be a very bad influence. Living in constant fear becomes second nature for them. They cannot predict what will tick the person off, and sometimes may go along with whatever the person says, just to avoid conflict and drama. The family may or may not let the outside world know about the addiction, but the addict, since he may not be able to think straight for himself, does it. Missing work, forgoing family events, evading responsibilities, creating scenes in public, breaking the law, shrugging off duties, etc., are some of the levels he may stoop to. It is only a natural consequence for the family to face the embarrassment that these acts cause. They resort to covering up and making excuses wherever and whenever possible to save face. What they may not realize is that it is this subterfuge that further fuels the addict to carry on with his ways, because he knows that he can get away with it. Due to the highly volatile nature that an addict assumes in the throes of his addiction, the people around him tend to go into a recluse. They close themselves up, and the relationship begins to crack. The addict will refuse to accept that he has a problem, and the sober one will constantly be trying to make him realize that he does. Emotional conflicts ensue, egos clash, harsh words are spoken, and misunderstandings and arguments become a daily affair. It soon becomes close to impossible to communicate with the addict. This situation gets worse if the addict resorts to lying and cheating to support his addiction. Betrayal can never be taken easily by anyone in any relationship. When this very foundation of a relationship develops cracks, it becomes very difficult to make it survive. Slowly but surely, frustration begins to build up within the people who have to deal with an addict. Whether it is a spouse who has to shoulder all the responsibilities of a co-dependent addict, a parent who sees his child wasting his life on narcotics, or a child watching his parent's extremely volatile temperament; annoyance and disappointment fester within them. A sense of resentment soon combines with this vexation, and the addict is seen as an irritant. No relationship can remain healthy after these two feelings creep into it. Feeling constantly irritated, betrayed, disappointed, and rejected by someone you love because they have become slaves to an addiction is a feeling that not many can deal with. While everyone may try at first to put up with it for the sake of the relationship, when it becomes apparent that the addict is beyond intervention, and the relationship beyond repair, many opt to free themselves of the emotional, psychological, financial, and physical burdens that being with an addict brings with it. An addict will find himself getting deserted by one person after another. When an addict finds himself alone, and at a point in his life that his narcotic cannot get him out of, he may have a reality check and decide to make up for the emotional trauma that he has put everyone around him through. The addict must:

• Accept the Problem
  : The first step is to accept that he has a problem. If he does not think he has one, there's no way he will be willing to go through with the recuperation process.
• Introspect and Take Responsibility
  : When he has decided to face the problem, he must take a long hard look at himself, and be willing to take responsibility for all the harm that he has caused to people around him. He has to have the courage to face the effects of all his deeds and strive to make up for them.
• Seek Help
  : Getting rid of an addiction is something that cannot be done alone. Constant support (moral and physical) is required to help the addict in his healing process. Help from family, friends and rehabilitation organizations is what he has to rely on to get some semblance of normalcy to his life.
• Plan the Recovery and Stick to It
  : Because an addiction is so easy to acquire and difficult to give up, the rehabilitation process becomes that much more difficult. Hence, the addict needs to devise a strategy to plan his recovery and then adhere to it.
• Be Prepared for Setbacks
  : The process of rehabilitation will involve a lot of unfavorable, undesirable, and trying tests of physical, psychological and mental endurance. The addict needs to be prepared to face these tests. He also needs to face the people he has hurt in his journey as an addict, and be prepared to be rebuked and/or rejected by them.

Dealing with an addict can be one of the most arduous experiences that a person can go through. A relationship can handle only so much strain, but if you've decide to see it through to the end, no matter what, then you need to have immense faith - in yourself, in your relationship, and also in the addict. Faith, when coupled with patience can only yield positive results. You love the addict for the person he was, and you've decided to bring that person back. So, your relationship should have no room for judgment. At the same time, remember that you're going to have to make a lot of adjustments and sacrifices in your life in order to accommodate the efforts of the addict to attempt an addiction-free life. It's not going to be easy, and you need to prepare yourself for possible relapses from the addict. Keep all this in mind, and focus on the ultimate goal that you wish him to achieve. Encourage and applaud his efforts. He needs you as much as you need him, maybe even more. Don't give up.