Making up and getting back together with your ex after a breakup is a good idea, but it can be challenging, too. So, for those who find themselves in such a situation and are contemplating getting back with an ex, here's some useful advice to make things easier.
Sometimes, it's the distance that make us realize how much a person means to us. At times, in spite of knowing that the other person really loves us, we start taking them for granted, only to find that one fine day they are gone. It is when the reality of a breakup hits a person that they realize what has happened. Being so used to the care and company of someone, imagining a life without them seems very hard.
Understand your Feelings
The foremost thing is to be sure of your feelings. Do you really want to get back together? What is the reason behind this? If you want to get back just because you cannot be alone, it is a bad idea. However, if you feel that the other person makes you feel complete, where it adds meaning to your already fulfilled life, you can consider getting back together.
Analyze the 'Breakup'
The next thing to do is to rethink why such a situation arose in the first place. Did you do something that pushed your ex-boyfriend or -girlfriend away from you? If yes, do you think that you can change that very thing about you? Or was your breakup due to some serious issues, like your partner wanting to commit, but you preferring a more freer relationship? So, if you are really serious, be prepared to turn a new leaf.
Give It Some Time
Give yourself, as well as your ex, some time before you start initiating contact. Leave a gap of at least three weeks, so that both of you have enough time to think things over. If your ex is really hurt, the time apart will help them heal. This way, when you do initiate contact to get your ex back, at least they'll respond to you.
Focus on Yourself
Do not think too much about it. You must prepare yourself for any situation; things may or may not work. So in the meantime, focus on your health and work, and try to remain positive. A fit, successful, and happy person, is admired by all.
Get in Touch
To get back with your ex, maintain contact. Call them up. Tell them that you called just to say hi and to check on how they are doing. Do not at any point talk about getting back together with them, or you might scare them away. By talking to your ex, you will get a fairly good idea of how they feel about you.
Once you are in regular touch with your ex, try becoming friends with them, again. Call them on alternate days, chat for a while, or send funny texts, or even email. If they have some issues or problems, make sure that you are there to lend them a ear and helping hand. Hang out together, even if it means going out in a group.
Ask for a Date
Finally, if you feel that the two of you have become emotionally close again, ask your ex-girlfriend out on a date. If you are someone trying to get her ex-boyfriend back, suggest dating or being a couple, again. In either case, if your ex says yes, then things can be worked out. If they need time to think things over, there's still hope. However, if your ex refuses point-blank to go out with you, I suggest you leave this whole idea of getting back together with them.
Going back to your ex after a breakup is never easy. He or she may have started dating someone else and may no longer respond to you. Or worse, even if you start dating again, the same issues which led to the breakup might crop up. So, there's no harm in giving it a try, but at the same time, be prepared for any outcome.